Random thoughts on Self Esteem/Self Respect/ Sex and the internet and the surrender of decency and privacy

 Random thoughts on Self esteem, Self respect, The internet & Surrendering our privacy

These were notes l had been scribbling away at to write an article on but other projects had deadlines so here they are in their un finished form.  

Facebook – people using this to advertise themselves. Women with profile pictures of themselves naked, or scantily clad or focusing on particular parts of themselves…but not using this as a private facebook page but using it for their friends and family too…no fear of what people think , no concerns for their safety…their reputation…the fact that they might be mums…how this will affect their kids..that their kids might see it, or their friends…

This is how they chose to represent themselves.

Television programmes and their representation of women./Social media and how women are representing themselves.

Youtube, a social phenomenon.- private movies displayed to a world wide audience. Loss of control

onsent issues. What people chose to post. Sexually explicit material of a very personal nature..

Pornography….websites advertise for over 18 only but then have huge emphasis on Barely Legal, step kid seduces step parent..same sex teens etc. Its ALARMING.

Also porn sites, with huge volumes of women volunteering to be on their shows..

Language in summary videos extremely derogatory towards women….even though women know what they are entering into or believe that they do….scenes may start with woman in lead role but ultimately its all about her being on receiving end….the power dynamic ..

The descriptions so disrespectful and inciteful . Women are always referred to in terms of being taught a lesson, or shown a good time but none of the language ever suggests that the couple involved are partners in the experience.

BANg Bus!!! What the hell are people doing and thinking. I was googling something the other day and this came up as a search result. Really people. For those of you who have yet to have your mind destroyed by viewing this American website- which appears to be a bit of an institution at this point it is shocking.

WHY would any young/ or not so young woman volunteer for this.  To do this on camera in a dirty van with guys filming you, knowing that it will be posted on the internet and that once it goes up there,you have little or no hope of having it removed. Do young people not grasp the concept of permanency. That down the line when they want to move on with their lives that this will be out there in cyber space.

 

What does it say about women and how they view themselves, how they perceive themselves and how they present themselves to the world.

What does it say about men, and how they see women, how they treat women and how they view intimacy?